Friday the 13th and the possibility of our marriage nullified

13 Jan

This morning I read an article online entitled, Canadian Gov’t Dissolves Thousands of Same-Sex Marriages.

Its second paragraph read:

“A Department of Justice lawyer under Prime Minister Stephen Harper’s Conservative Party of Canada government has nullified all same-sex marriages performed in Canada in which the couples’ native country does not permit gays and lesbians to marry.”

As Australia does not allow us equal marriage rights Zanne and I were married in Vancouver, Canada in October 2009. According to this article our marriage has been nullified.

I freaked out. Zanne freaked out, posted the article on Facebook and everyone else freaked out. I closed my office door and cried and cried. I’m not too emotional, not much of a crier – in fact I haven’t cried my entire pregnancy – but this broke my heart. I love being married, our Canadian marriage certificate is proudly framed at home. We’re not married anymore? Just like that? I can’t comprehend the idea that a Government can take away rights. I feel sick at the thought.

When my eyes stopped stinging I did some research online and found a few other articles, including this article by Australia Marriage Equality, which suggest the article we originally read is inaccurate and the outcome is not final. Rodney Croome of Australia Marriage Equality said:

Gay and lesbian Australians who have married in Canada will be reassured that their Canadian marriages are still valid. We will be watching developments in Canada closely, but are hopeful the Canadian Government will not go further down the path of overturning overseas same-sex marriages solemnised under Canadian law.”

Let’s hope this article is just scare-mongering and the Canadian Government does the right thing by not re-opening the debate on same-sex marriage. This all is just one more reason that we need marriage equality in Australia, people. Then no-one would have to travel to another country to be married only to possibly have said marriage nullified (after we’ve helped their economy of course).

That’s all for now. Today is all too much for this pregnant lesbian.


PS. By the way, in case you’re wondering, this issue has flared up because, while Canadian non-residents are free to marry under Canadian law, only Canadian residents may be divorced (that’s right, Zanne and I got married knowing we couldn’t get divorced unless one of us became a Canadian resident). So a couple of non-resident lesbians are trying to divorce by claiming that their marriage was invalid in the first place as same-sex marriage is not allowed in their home country. Perhaps Canada could amend their divorce laws rather than cause heartache for thousands of other couples?


One Response to “Friday the 13th and the possibility of our marriage nullified”

  1. Doreen January 13, 2012 at 8:58 pm #

    I feel confident all will be good…you are a special couple and I just know all will be fine.

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